A Beginners Guide to Solo Dating

As someone who’s been chronically single for a long time now, I’ve always relied on my friends when it comes to going out and having fun. I love to plan things, so historically, it’s been my role to organise the day trip away or the girls night in. 

Recently, however, more and more of my friends seem to have lost interest in our once-loved get-togethers. I get a lot of messages like “we need to link up soon,” but as soon as I suggest a date and time, their response is something like “definitely next time, babe!”  So, I’d take this as a sign to stay home.

There are so many things I want to experience, but I hated the idea of experiencing them alone. It took me a while to realise that I don’t need company to have fun and create good memories. At times, it may be a preference, but it’s by no means a necessity.

That’s the power of solo dating! Here’s everything you need to know! 

What is a solo date?

A solo date is simply an activity that you engage in by yourself with the intention of happiness and enjoyment. This can be a home-based activity like tipsy canvas painting, or an activity away from home such as a pottery making class.

What are the benefits of solo dating?

Would you believe me if I said solo dating has completely changed my life? Not only has it helped me discover new things I enjoy, but it has also allowed me to become more confident in situations where I would usually be shy. 

Here are the main benefits: 

• Freedom: You have the freedom to choose what you wanna do, when you wanna do it, for however long you’d like to do it. There’s no need change your plans to meet someone else’s needs, or cancel just because everyone else has (something I used to do too often). 
• Confidence: If you’re a shy person (like me,) solo dating away from home can help boost your confidence in navigating different activities independently. Once upon a time I would have never considered buying tickets to go to an event or concert by myself. Now, I love stepping out my comfort zone and rolling solo. I’ve not ever regretted it and have always felt proud and happy with myself after. 
• Happiness: Being alone doesn’t have to mean sad and lonely, so as you learn how to enjoy your own company, you’ll stop depending on other people for your happiness. Girl, when I tell you this shift in mindset has had such a big impact on my happiness levels, especially as a single babe. 

Do you need to be single to go on solo dates?

Absolutely not! 

Solo dates can be beneficial for anyone, regardless of your relationship status. Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, taking time for yourself can improve your well-being and help you maintain a sense of individuality. 

I began solo dating because I was bored and single, without any reliable friends to enjoy life with the way I wanted to enjoy. Despite this, I will 100% continue going on solo dates long after I’m married and have kids. I’ve seen how much of an improvement it’s had on my happiness and wellbeing, and I see no reason to throw it all away.  

So, is solo dating for me?

Well, if you really still need convincing, here are a few questions you can ask yourself to help you make your final decision: 

• Do you feel the need for more “me time” to relax, unwind, and focus on yourself? 
• Are you interested in getting to know yourself better by exploring your own interests?

• Do you want to build your confidence and independence by navigating activities and social situations on your own?

• Are you looking for ways to reduce stress and improve your mental health through mindfulness and self-care?

If the answer to any one of these questions is a yes, I think it’s clear that you should give solo dating a try! Here are some solo date ideas to get you started.