How to Make Solo Dating a Regular Part of Your Routine

Making solo dates a regular part of your routine can be a fulfilling and enjoyable way to prioritise self-care, explore new interests, and develop a deeper connection with yourself. Every time I go on a solo date I’m reminded of just how good they make me feel! Here are some steps to help you integrate solo dates into your routine:

Step 1: Set Intentions and Goals

• Reflect on Your Interests: Think about activities you enjoy or new things you want to try.
• Define Your Goals: Whether it’s relaxation, exploration, or personal growth, knowing your objectives can help you plan meaningful solo dates.

Step 2: Schedule Your Solo Dates

• Pick a Regular Time: Choose a day and time that you can consistently dedicate to yourself. It could be weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly.
• Block It in Your Calendar: Treat it like an important appointment. Having it scheduled will make you more likely to stick to it.

Step 3: Plan Your Activities

• Start Simple: Begin with activities that you can easily fit into your routine, like reading a book in a park, visiting a museum, or having a meal at a new restaurant.
• Mix It Up: Include a variety of activities to keep things interesting. This could be anything from hiking, attending a class or workshop, to exploring a new neighbourhood.

Step 4: Prepare in Advance

• Research: Look up information about places or activities you’re interested in. This can help you make the most out of your solo date.
• Gather Necessary Items: If your activity requires specific items (e.g., hiking gear, art supplies), prepare them in advance.

Step 5: Be Present and Enjoy the Moment

• Disconnect: Limit distractions by putting your phone on silent or leaving it in your bag. Focus on the experience.
• Practice Mindfulness: Pay attention to your surroundings, your thoughts, and your feelings during the solo date.

Step 6: Reflect and Adjust

• Journal Your Experience: After each solo date, write down what you did, how you felt, and what you enjoyed. 
• Adjust as Needed: Based on your reflections, tweak your solo dates to better suit your interests and goals.

Step 7: Stay Committed

• Be Flexible but Consistent: Life can be unpredictable, so it’s okay to reschedule if needed. The key is to not abandon the practice altogether.
• Reward Yourself: Celebrate your commitment to self-care. Treating yourself can reinforce the habit.